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Foreign online dating scams, and how to avoid them.

Hi,guys, Maria here your relationship adviser at mrlifeadvise.

So i have had more than 10 male clients over the past 11 years time that has been scammed by foreign online dating sites and the profiles on them.

And believe me, it is a jungle out there and a lot of people are praying on lonely men mainly from the Western world.

I have developed a very simple but advanced program for love sick lonely men that are using foreign online dating sites and what to look out for, so you dont get scammed.

This full pdf-program will be available for purchase on this site, in the end of this month.

And it will well be worth the buy, to avoid getting scammed us much as possible, nothing is ever bulletproof but my system comes very close!.

I can recommend these two tv-show for you to watch on this topic who are called 90 day finance and before the 90 days.

And these are pretty mellow shows compared to what i have seen my clients go true in the past 15 years time!.

But they give you at least a hint on the challenges you will face even if you will find that needle in the haystack.

The one thing i can tell you for sure is that on most foreign online dating sites, the girls gets paid to put up their profile and keep you interesting for as long as possible.

Now good pictures does not mean that it is a scam, because even real profiles spend some money on professional photos THESE DAYS, but if a women half your age is in (love with you after a month time!) you are getting scammed with a 99.99% probability.

A few free pointers that i can give you are these.

No1: Always make sure that you get face time or Skype time very quickly from when you start to corresponds with a woman more seriously.

So if you start to talk to more exclusively with a women, make sure she is real, there is no excuse for a women not to be able to Skype you or face time you for 5 min at least in today’s world!.

And this is a sure way to at least establish that the person you are talking to is the same as on the pictures.

If the person comes with excuses NOT to use Skype or face-time you ,then stop talking immediately to that person, because then it is for sure a scam.

But even if the person is willing to face time you or Skype with you there is no guarantee that the person has your best interest at hearth.

So there is a very lengthy process that you need to go true when trying to date on foreign dating sites.

And i can say with all certainty that more than 90% of all girls and ladies are not interested in leaving their country for love, it is a visa scam or a money grab.

So how do you find the good 10% that has the good intentions.

I will teach you all the tips and tricks in the pdf-file, but i will give you one more pointer in this blog post.

No2: There is a rule of thumb when in comes to age differences on foreign dating sites and that is that the age difference should not be more than 15-20 years at a MAX!.

And i could list them something like this, even if every person is different, and some will accept a larger age difference.

If you are a 25-35 year old male, you should opt for a partner in the age range of 20-35 years in the female.

If you are a 35-45 year old male, you should opt for a partner in the age range of 25-40 years in the female.

And if you are 50-65 old male, you should not chase 25 year old girls, it will not end well for you, under any circumstances.

So if you are an older male try and keep it smart and look for a 40+ year of age women with some education and class.

I understand that it feels good as a 50+ years old male when 23 and 24 year old girls are contacting you, but it is not anything you should pay any attention to what to ever, because thee is nothing real there for you more than ego boost that will cost you your shirt!.

So i will come back when mrlifeadvise has uploaded my pdf-file for sale at the site with more information on this topic.

But be safe out there in the foreign online dating jungle!.

Thank you for reading.

Maria, your in-house clinical psychologist and relationship therapist at mrlifeadvise.

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WHY PEOPLE ARE LEAVING LA,NYC AND CHICAGO FOR SMALL TOWN AMERICA!

So a lot of talk has been around why people are leaving LA and NYC and cities like Chicago for small town America!.

And yes the cost of living in these cities are really high and the real estate prices are ridiculous in places like LA and NYC.

But this is not the full picture of why people are living for greener pastures.

Yes cost of housing,day care and taxes are higher in LA and in the NYC, but there is a big driver why millennial and others are moving out in masses from the Metropolitan areas , towards small town America.

And yes millennial are also moving to hot spots like Phoenix,Austin and Atlanta, but many are also moving to small town America.

And it is not just millennial who are moving out of these larger metro areas, also people in their 40s are moving out.

So now you are wondering what is the big reason for people moving away from bigger cities with all the amenities towards more rural communities and smaller towns.

SO HERE IS ONE OF THE NEW AND REAL REASONS THIS IS HAPPENING SO MUCH RIGHT NOW!

COMPANIES ARE ALLOWING PEOPLE TO WORK MORE FROM HOME!.

The first reason why this is happening more and more right now, is due to a lot of companies having changed out the old school management that has retired in large parts and younger people in their late 40s has taken over, and they younger folks have all been around the internet boom from the earlier days so they know that not everybody has to sit and work in the same office to be productive.

Most of the old school management taught that al workers should be under one roof for getting out the most of the productivity.

The second thing is because of the big problem that most companies in America and Europe is facing in today’s world is the lack of educated and/or experienced workers to hire for corporate openings.

In today’s online world and great video meeting possibility you can sit in South Dakota and work for a New York city company.

Or you can sit in Colorado and work for a Los Angeles based company.

In most cases you need to go in to the office maybe 2 days a month, to meet face to face with your co-workers but other than that you can sit where ever you want for your job!.

There is also a great benefit for many companies allowing this, working from home thing.

And that is that is is much easier to requite highly skilled personal at a reasonable cost compared to what the cost would be to have to relocate a person cross country.

Let us say that you are a company that in certain positions do not need the employees to sit in the same building or city, then you have a much wider net to search for that very talented co-worker/employee all over America, instead of just within the city limits.

It is also easier to keep the costs down salary wise for a job if the person can sit and work from home in a much cheaper city than the LA and NYC are for instance.

So let us say that you need to pay 120.000 dollars to get a skilled person in the bigger cities for this job that you need to hire for.

If you are willing to accept a person working from home in South Dakota you might find the sale talent for 90.000 or even slightly less than 90.000 dollars.

So this is a win win for al parties, companies can recruit better and also save some on salaries.

workers/people with good skills that are living in smaller towns and cities can get work that might not be available in here region without having to move to the metro areas.

And with good internet speed, you can have video meetings or face time your colleagues a few times a day, and it will work pretty much the same as it would if you where all sitting in a conferee room together.

So this is one of the major driver for millennial and others leaving a high cost and high stress life in a big city for a more laid back life in small town America.

Lets face it, living in Los Angeles is stressfull you need to make 150K at least a year to live somewhat decent and even that is not enough.

If you are gonna live a more comfortable life in Los angles or NYC you need to make upwards to 250K .

And there is not that many 250k a year jobs to go around.

There is also on other area that is to come and that is for smaller and medium sized companies to figure out how to get access to highly skilled workers but only for part time jobs.

So let us say that you run a small factory or a company in Los Angeles ,and you are in need of a part time expert on something that you can not find in your area.

Then maybe finding a retired expert on this specific topic in Pittsburgh PA, that can offer your company 15 hours a week at a reasonable price point over video link.

So mrlifeadvise strongly believes that we have just seen the beginning of this trend where a lot of office type of work can be done online with co-workers and employees are sitting here and there.

There is also one other great benefit to having people sitting in other cities and that is that they might be able to drum up some new business for the company by being abler to represent the business in their own region/state/city.

Thank you for reading.

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I am Maria, welcome to take my advice or not!.

Dear,readers, my name is Maria and i am in my late 50s and i am a clinical psychologist and relationship therapist by trade and these are my profession.

I started my work life almost 40 years ago as a young model from Sweden.

I worked as a model for more than 15 years, i did runways and catalogue and you name it!.

I never became a famous model, but i was able to work for a long time (yes 15 years is a long time for a model) even in the 80s and during the 90s.

I was fortunate enough to have a good agency when i started my career and they did a really good job in protecting me and my young colleagues from a lot of the dark side of teenage and young adults modeling globally.

This does not mean that i was not put into situation as a young adult 18-23 , where i was not 100% comfortable with being in at the time!.

At the age of 26 i went to school to get my degree and i started to do a lot of company modeling (catalogs) for different companies on the side to pay for my education.

I spent 9 years in total getting my degrees and working on the side to put me true school.

I was then recruited to my first job at a privately held company with over 300 workers that believed in mental health benefits for all workers.

And i can tell you that a lot of workers that would have been out on sick leave for mental issues never got that far because we caught them in time!.

I meet all workers one day a year to evaluate their mental health status, and around 20% of the work force needed additional help during a year.

And around 10% of the workers i saw each week for at least on hour.

This was my first job and i gave it my all.

Then the company got sold 8 years later to a global corporation and i was laid off pretty much on the spot.

Because they closed down the mental health program within the company on the spot.

So then i open up my own practice where i mainly focused on small and medium sized business owners and their families, and this way i got familiar to the mrlifeadvise company, even if the mrlifeadvise is not the company name, but rather the brand for these different consulting companies.

One of my specialties is to do couples counseling but also to help single men figure out what they are really looking for in their next relationship!.

So by identifying the things you are looking for in a partner , before putting yourself out there on the singles market, is a very good idea to avoid getting burned and wasting your time dating people that you will have no logical future with.

So if you are a male and a small or medium sized business owner, and you are looking for a women who will understand the life that you are living and breathing your business 24/7, 365 days a year, you will have an uphill battle in-front of you.

Because the reality is that as a small or medium sized business owner you need to work 24/7 and also 365 days a year.

This is of course a truth with some modification, but lets me honest and say that you can not let your business go for a 30 day period and go on vacation, unless you have a great team in your company that can run everything while you are gone.

So i have developed some very special tools that will help you as a male small or medium sized business owner to screen potential life partners .

And i will share them with you going forward.

I have promised mrlifeadvise to post one blog posts each week on relationships.

And this will mainly be based on my experience as a clinical psychologist and relationship therapist for the past 20 years time working with a broad range of different type of clients.

So you will get a lot of really interesting pointers from me what to look out for and what to look for to find a good partner, that will understand and accept your lifestyle as a small or medium sized business owners.

One final and very important note, is that if i talk about a client then that client has given me the right to share his or her story with you the reader.

So there is no breach of confidentiality on my part,towards my current or former clients.

Yours sincerely.

Maria.

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Welcome Maria!, our new relationship expert!.

Hi,guys, so we want to take the opportunity to welcome Maria as our main relationship expert.

A lot of our clients have asked us for relationship advise and the most of us have been married several times so we might not be the best guys to give advise on this topic more than from our point of view (male).

Maria is a former runway model from Paris and Milan in the 1980s and she has been working as a relationship adviser for the past 25 years time.

So she will post once a week a relationship post with good advice for our readers.

So a warm welcome to Maria from mrlifeadvise.

Thank you for reading.

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Gambling to fix other financial difficulties!.

This one is a thing we have seen a lot of in the past where people turn to gambling to try and solve other financial difficulties.

And in short 99 % of these tries fail.

Many of you might now that FEDX was saved by Fred Smith founder and CEO at the time by turning 5.000 dollars into 27.000 dollars over a weekend in Las Vegas to pay for fuel for another week!.

And without this win, the company might not we a billion dollar business today, you never know.

But this is one of those 1% things that almost never happens in real life!.

Maybe some of you can remember the Woody Harrelson and Demi Moore and Robert Redford movie indecent proposal from 1993.

The plot of the movie is that Woody and Demi is about to lose their dream home in the recession that they have built, so they take their last 5.000 dollars and head from LA to Vegas to try and win money to keep their home.

They of course lose it all, which is the case in 99.99% of the times, but they catch the eye of a billionaire played by Robert, who offers them a whooping 1 million dollars for a night with Demi.

And they do accept this indecent offer, to be able save their dream home in LA.

This is a good story to use as a Waring to people thinking of using their last five or ten thousand dollars to fix a bigger financial problem.

What happens to you and your family if you lose, which you by all statistics will do in the end!.

A better plan would be to buy stuff at garage sales and flee markets and put them up for sale at AMAZON for instance.

The chances of making money on this is much greater than on risking it all gambling.

And if you buy smart stuff at garage sales like older toys or Disney products, you can double your money in a month time or so, up to a certain amount of course.

But dont try this option of trying to double or even quadruple your money by gambling!.

It will only lead to a bigger financial strain on you and your family.

Thank you for reading.

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80% of all day traders lose money, period!!!!!.

So a question we here a lot is from parent who runs semi successful small business that their sons, usually 99% are sons, wants to do day trading and selling and buying crypto-currencies and so on!.

Instead of working in the family business.

There is a fact that is the cold hard truth and that is that 80% of all day-traders who buy and sell normal financial instruments lose money, but the same can be said about those people who trade crypto currencies also.

So this illusion that your kid has that he can become successful on day-trading is just an illusion.

We can tell you who the 20% are who makes money on day-trading are so you get a better picture of how this works in real life.

So the 20% of the people making money have big bank rolls and they can have millions of dollars invested, and they will survive longer in a bear market.

Most of the times, what happens is that the day-trader is semi successful in the first year, they hit some winners, but then they start to invest with more risk, and they only need a few bad picks and then they are skint!.

So number one is that you need a big bank roll.

The second thing is that you need a financial background in investing and trading if you are gonna sit and day-trade.

Day-trading is much different from investing in a individual stock that takes off, or investing in mutual funds over a long period of time.

You simply need to know much more about trading than most traders do!.

Now somebody is gonna come in and say that what about bitcoins and other crypto currencies and many hit it big on bitcoins for instance.

Let us burst that bubble for you, bitcoins was a one hit wonder and even if 10% made money on bitcoin over 90% of the people investing in in later has lost money.

Not to talk about the people that has lost huge money in pure crypto currencies scams!.

So a big congrats to all the people that bought crypto currency early on and sold it prior to it dropping 50-90% when the masses came in and started investing.

So when your young adults or barley legal kids come and say that they will be the next Gordon Gekko (Wall street movie) from the 80s with Charlie Sheen, you burst there bubble with statistics that 80% of the day traders will lose money.

So there is no future for your kids to sit and day trade rather than go out into the real world and get a real career going!.

Thank you for reading.

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DO NOT BET ON THE SUPERBOWL, AS A FIRST TIME BETTER!.

So today is the biggest game of the year, it is the Superbowl.

Please do yourself a favor as a business owner and do not place a bet on the game.

For a lot business owners the Superbowl bets are the first really big bets they have ever placed in their lives and, that has usually been the spark towards a downward spiral.

The worst thing for a business owner is to place 5000 or even 10.000 dollars on a Superbowl bet that goes in, and then the taste and the allure of easy money gets triggered in your brain!.

And before you know it you are betting on NBA,NHL,MLS,MLB AND NFL on a weekly basis with thousands of dollars on each bet!.

Often if the first big bet is on the Superbowl and you lose it, then more often that not there is no positive trigger, to place more bets.

So we can not tell you how many small and medium sized business owners has placed their first big bet on a Superbowl game and after that they started to rack up losses on hundreds of thousands of dollars after a few years of betting.

In some cases we have seen that a bigger placed bet on the Superbowl that goes in has made small and medium sized business owners to lose millions over the next upcoming years.

Also the Superbowl is known to be very difficult to predict, and the reason is quite simple, it is one game, and both teams are really good and that is why they are participating in the Superbowl.

So one or two interceptions or fumble mistakes can do that one team wins or loses the game!.

So today everybody believes that the Kansas city chiefs lead by the offensive powerhouse QB Patrick Mahomes , should win this game against the SF 49ers.

But the 49ers have a better running game and a better defense.

So just enjoy the game without any money on the line.

If you want to bet on the game, bet with your friends about a dinner, so the loser pays for a great evening out!.

If you stick to that then you never run the risk of getting addicted to gambling.

The reason many smaller and medium sized business owners gets addicted to gambling is because they are willing to take risks.

Every business owners needs to be willing to take and face risks.

So stay safe and do not ever start and gamble on anything in your life!.

So this might sound boring not to ever bet, but take it from people who have cleaned up more than our far-share of addicted business owners, that the risk of losing your business is never worth it!.

Easy come and easy go!.

Thank you for reading.

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5 things you need to consider before borrowing money for the growth of your business!.

So knowing when to borrow money to expand your business is maybe the most difficult question to answer ever, when it comes to smaller and medium sized business.

And there are so many variables that needs to be taken into consideration before borrowing money to grow the business.

And if you get it wrong it can mean that you will lose your business in a few years.

And we will list the things you should really consider , before ever borrowing money to grow your business.

Nr1: What would the terms of the loan be for your business?, this one is very important because if you can borrow money at a good rate , then it makes the payback process much easier. There is a huge difference between a 8% rate and a 15% rate when you look at a payback table of let us say 10+ years.

Nr2: Most of the time you need to put up your business and maybe even your home as a security to the lender, and this also means that you should never borrow unless you have a crystal clear business plan in place, and also that you have had an outside company look at the business plan based on your competition you face for your service or products that you offer.

Nr3: What happens if you get sick along the way, can somebody-else run the business?, this one is huge because we can not tell the future so if you borrow money based on that you can operate the business, then you need to look at what extra add on insurances you can take if you get sick, so if you cannot repay the loan so you and your family dont end up on the streets!.

Nr4: Do you need to invest on personal or is it just in to you stock and added machinery, There is a huge difference in what the loan is spent for, if you spend money on stock then it is more of an asset, if you buy machinery to maybe automatize some things that is also an investment, but if you spend on adding sales reps and add costs and so on, then it is an expense that can be very risky for your business.

Because if you do not get the added sales affects by adding sales reps and doing marketing then you are in trouble, and with a loan to repay.

Nr5: Due diligence is a word that is taken way to lightly by a lot of business owners before they enter into debt, the most important thing is to now your numbers and to know exactly what the money should be used for down to every penny before you even are thinking of borrowing the money.

We are not trying to scare you , but we are trying to warn you about the fast-lane of credit and loans for small and medium sized business these days.

A lot of small and medium size business go under because of one bad loan that they have taken out to lightly.

This just a matter of fact, and this fact needs to be respected.

Thank you for reading.

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Why does addiction impact company growth!.

So some people have asked why we talk about addiction and mainly gambling addiction as a huge problem for companies, and the growth of a company.

So you have to understand that when you look at a business, it all starts with the owner/owners and then comes the CEO and CFO and then the workforce.

And if you have at the upper level people that are suffering from any kind of addiction that takes both time and money away from the business this is a huge problem.

But this matter is not very often discussed , because the workers are afraid of getting involved and getting the owner/CEO some help to beat the addiction.

This is understandable that a worker does not want to jeopardize their job by going to the boss and saying hi Jack i believe that you are suffering from a serious addiction and me and the rest of your employees would like you to seek help for your addiction.

Most of the times the workers and other management personal can spot what the addiction is that the owner or the CEO is suffering from.

But with gambling this is much more difficult to spot compered to alcohol and drugs where there is usually some psychical signs that you can see what is going on.

And the growth and well being of any business depends very much on the owner/management making sound and good decisions for the future.

And if you have a CEO/Owner who blows 300-500.000 dollars a year in VEGAS or at the OTB and today sadly enough, legal gambling is almost available in every state.

And as Warren Buffet says, there is no economic benefit for states and cities to legalize gambling, it is a cancer that eats away on the society.

There is a reason why a lot of countries did band gambling 100+ years ago and there is also a reason why in many European countries for many years it was state controlled(no longer) the European politicians sold out and gave in!.

And this is one of the most damaging things that a business owner can do is to gamble away money and funds that could be used to grow the business.

Instead they are taking the money out from the company and then gambling it away at casinos,sport-books or at the OTB.

Dont you think that if it was possible to win on sports-book and casinos LONG-TERM, that there would be some huge groups of investors doing this today?!.

We see a lot of addicted people when we are asked to look over a company in distress, regardless of which country it is located in these days.

We did not see in the past the gambling issue as clearly as we see it today in both Europe and America, but Asia is crazy also.

So if you are an employee of a company and you can see that your owner or CEO is struggling with addiction, the best thing you can do is to try and get all the workers together and then try and get outside council to see if an outside company or person can come in and start treating the addicted person.

The addicted person is not gonna be able to white knuckle the issue on their own(quit on their own) it always takes help to get an addict cleaned up.

And they will struggle for the rest of their life with the addiction, but they can with help fight the addiction and stay clean.

Doing nothing as an employee is stupid because the investments made in the company will affect you in a personal way.

And the lack of investments will also affect you in a bad way.

BUT THE ONE THING TO BE CAREFUL WITH, IS NOT TO DO THIS ALONE!.

YOU NEED TO GET ALL THE WORKERS TO UNITE AND SEEK OUTSIDE HELP TO HELP OUT YOUR OWNER/CEO.

Because if you do this alone , there is a risk that you can get fired for overstepping if you do this on your own.

So if you dont get other workers on board then stand down.

Because addicts when getting pushed will lash out at the person trying to help them out.

This is totally normal when dealing with an addict.

Very seldom when we from mrlifeadvise get called into a company, is it the owner/Ceo him or herself asking for our outside council and assistance.

Usually it is other family members or co-workers or investors/partners who can not take this anymore.

So the person we are coming to help, will lash out at us and usually it goes something like this, yes i like to gamble and drink but i dont have a problem with it!.

Our answer usually is, okay then you will have no problem opening up your private books and the companies books so we can establish how much % wise you have spent on your vice or vices on a yearly basis!.

Because every company is different and has different turnovers and revenues so you need to count is percentage instead of the money going out.

So usually if the clients has spent more than 20% on his or her net income on gambling then it is a huge problem.

Already at 10% there are serious WARNING flags that this is an issue that needs to be solved.

Normally we see that over 50% goes towards gambling of the net income for a gambling addict that has access to funds on a regular basis.

So there is a huge advantage if you as a company employee can have a sober owner/Ceo at the top of your company.

So do not take addiction lightly and absolutely do not take gambling addiction lightly.

Based on our wast experience we would put gambling addition side by side with opioid addiction.

And for us as advisers it is scary to see how widely available the online gambling is these days.

And we know first hand many companies that went under due to the owner being an gambling addict.

And this is just so sad when you see jobs lost and local revenues going to the bookie instead of the local city/town , because the company owner never got treatment.

And this is also where the last stand usually takes place, that once the business owner has lost his company and all of his money has been lost on gambling, he will more likely than not take his own life.

Suicide is very common when it comes to gambling addicts, because it is one of the toughest if not the toughest addiction to beat.

And the reason for this is that you brains dopamine levels have been hijacked so badly by the addiction that it is insane.

If you have ever seen a cat-scan picture of a gambling addicts brain it is down right scary to look at the photo of the brain.

So sharing is caring and if you know somebody who suffers from gambling addiction or any other addiction that affect there business or your work environment, try to solve it and nip it in the but A.S.A.P because it will only go one way which is downhill from wherever the addict is at the point that you get involved with the case!.

Thanks for reading.

Mrlifeadvise.

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